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Stats State in the Past 50 years there are more Single People by 50%

Single People Can Have More Fun.

Is interesting how more and more people choose to be single and if I take my own experiences into consideration I can understand why there are 16 million people aged 16 or over who are single and have never cohabited or married, equivalent to 34.5% of the adult population. There are 19.8 million people not living as a couple equivalent to 39% of the adult population.

Researchers say that unmarried people have a unique advantage: They are more active socially, which means they’re sometimes even happier than their married counterparts. … He also found that the more social interactions people engage in, the happier they are even more so for single people than married people.

When I think of my grandparent’s day and my parents time you were classed as nobody or something wrong if you were not married and tied to the sink with apron strings and depended on the man.

Thank goodness the sixties had an impact on the world and spoke out for women’s right although it is far from even women in some cases are still paid less than their counterparts.

I used to think of sharing a life with someone and trusting them fully in my life as heaven, I have experienced quiet the opposite, I always ended up paying the price for being in a relationship which I found not only the expense of being with someone, but also, I was less confident and did less.

Surprising I found happiness in being with my friend’s male and female and my cats I put more trust into them, they may cost me, but it is worthwhile for the return of love and affection I get.

I found from speaking with people they would not marry again and certainly would not have the pressures of relationships, today I feel more than ever it is such a risky time, since a lot of people have hidden genders.

Being single has not got the stigma it had years ago, I find I am more creative, more outgoing and when ever I went on my own on holidays I was not always alone, people spoke to you and joined you in with what they were doing.

Also, the money you earn and goals you set you are more likely to achieve, I almost got my goal of travel, it was taken at the last minute and I was left homeless after paying off my house with my partner, I promised myself I would never be in that position again.

I am a free spirit and do not like to live by demands of others being able to go where I want and go out when I want and do the activities that please me and at least the only person I must consider is myself.

I have found single life very rewarding, I felt very lonely in my marriage since the demands were great and I was expected to please so many people with what they wanted, being a free spirit suits me and I think most people today it seems they feel the same way.

Do People Really Mean what they Say.

Can we bring our Thoughts to Reality?

In life you sometimes reflect, I wanted to mention about a situation with a young woman, this probably happen to many, and they will also feel they are not deserving, and, in many ways, they probably believe the saying life is what you make it, yet it does not seem to happen.

Although some young people get served a bad hand, this person lost her mother very young, the person that kept the harmony and made life worth living.

She did all the legal things the right way, however this night she was going to college to try and get her final year of schooling since her schooling ended two years before she got her grades, her father’s drinking and the living conditions that was forced upon her and her brother made it impossible for her to complete her schooling.

She left the college early in her fathers car and came to an island stopped ,went to go, stopped and a car hit her on the right side which meant she was automatically in the wrong, the car flew into another car the other car went into the brick fence, while she was recuperating her fathers sister signed up for the most expensive quotes three times more than the items, which was  a years wages which meant this young women had to work three jobs to pay for the expenses, been told she should be a shame of her self because her father had no car which he would not insure. To add further pressure a late payment would mean more legal charges.

When this lady moved into her own rented flat, she suddenly had more money than living with her father who drank constantly, she worked the long hours, her neighbour the same age as her father asked why she went out so much. She explained what had happened, with a concern look, his reply was how could a father do that to his own daughter, and it would be great if his son and her got together.

As it happens the son and this lady did get together and in no time saved for their own home, after a short time in the marriage cracks started to appear because of the constant problems with the family and neighbours, this young women felt so alone no one to turn to, just criticism and her dreams were falling away she always wanted to travel since she was a small girl, she worked long hours since she did not expect her husband to provide the dream, this was what she wanted, he mentioned it was a dream of his as well, he only worked one job, the following year they would have had the money.

They had made it, long nights and very little sleep she had the security of her home, although there was a nudge, she felt it was not secure, her husband would not talk about the dream or plan with her, instead insisted on an inground pool and with the cars and house paid said it was not up for discussion and they would never be able to afford it and went straight down to the neighbours.

The neighbours and family insisted they were good Catholics and since this young woman was not, she was not worthy and should have children straight away and kept at her, in the end the marriage ended.

The parents of the young man and neighbours insisted this woman who left the situation should have nothing that the young man should have the house and all the money which he took out the money so the young lady had nothing to live on, also she had to go through solicitors to get her clothes out  of the house, only when she insisted on 78 percent that she was really entitled to they backed down, and while she packed the truck they took items off.

In life the important thing, I think this young woman realised that you must value yourself and know what your values are, attract the real friends and people in your life, not the ones with a hidden agenda, when both people want something, both should work at it and not expect the other person to do all the work.

One of this lady’s friend would often say you do not want to be a door mat, if you let it, people will wipe their feet on you.

Over many years this person has lost a lot, although she always stayed strong, and the spirit was never broken she just mixed in different circles better ones.

Can cats see Human Faces?

Cats see a Differently to Us colours will appear different

I have fourteen cats and they certainly know who I am, cats see although not like us they see colours differently to us they are colour blind; they can see shades of blue and green, reds and pink are confusing, purple can look like another shade of blue, cats’ senses are very strong they often go by smell or sound, and they quickly pick up the sound of their owner’s voice.

Cats feel a very strong connection to their person, they respond well to calmness and do not often handle any tension or stressful situations, they will sometimes hide away or wet or do naughty things because they feel threatened.

I have one cat that when he sees me, he meows for me to pick him up and wants immediate attention or if he hears me will meow to tell me where he is.

All my cats want my attention, which jealously can slip in, and they will sit on the other cat to take over they are all individual and want different attention from myself.

They can miss you greatly, years back I went away for a few days I was told they sat on top of my car until I came home once they knew I was back one jumped through the window into my arms and the other curled around my legs, they are very connected.

One of my cats felt threatened by another and for her wellbeing I gave her to a friend, every time I visit, and she hears my voice she comes up for attention, when you truly show you care they are connected in every way.

A cat chooses their human and will sometimes choose to be with someone else not like dogs they are very independent, although if all their needs are meet a cat will not normally stray and be very loyal, if you save a cat, they will love you for ever and be very devoted.

Acceptance is so Important.

Being accepted and loved is so Important

I had noticed how one of my cats, Lilly, has become so loving and wanting to curl up against me and gives a little meow when I go to go out, Lilly belonged to a Workmate who was going to give her to a charity which I had heard if the cat was not homed within a short period of time, they put them down. 

Even though I had eighteen cats at the time, I said one more will not make much difference I picked her up when I dropped him off, he mentioned she has become destructive and is chewing the wires and doing so much damage and runs and hides all the time.  

I slowly introduced her into the family and before long they all had their pecking order and knew who was boss, within a few weeks with patting and reassuring her, her fur started to grow back, my friend noticed the difference in her, there are plenty of toys to play with and the friendship grew with the cats getting up to mischief and playing chase every now and then.  

Lilly would shy away when he came in and, as with most cases of cats that I have taken in, they hide and come out when the person who had them has gone. Cats fear of going back to where they come from if they were not contented and happy or had a bad experience. 

Lilly, like all the other cats, enjoyed their treats and attention they are all individual and like different amount of attention, every night Lilly jumps up on the bed and sleeps into me and comes up for the odd cuddle she purrs and is very relaxed.  

A few years ago, like many of the cats I have, two black cats were dumped one was very nasty and growled a lot I did not see him, he was at my friend’s place the other cat very calm we managed to get his trust but his legs were giving way, I researched and put him on some herbal treatment to get rid of the blood clots which goes out when they pee, I had him neutered and chipped and within a few weeks he was a picture of health, he has never looked back, because of his misfortune I called him Lucky.  He is so loving and beautiful everyone now loves him he has he most largest golden eyes, he loves to sit against me while I am working and sleeps in my arms at night, his brother we are sure has passed on, I believe the only reason this cat was nasty was because of the pain he was in. 

Just like us humans, acceptance of who we are is so important, to an animal knowing you are loved and cared for means so much to them, I am very rich with all the love I receive I am never lonely and they accept me for who I am, when I see the difference in what I do to the lives of the ones I have saved the pleasure and fulfilment is so great, over the past few years I have lost a few to age,  I know they are with me in their spirit and what is important these cats left the world knowing they were truly loved and accepted. 

Trust

Trust is so important, without it business fade away

People even more people are faced with so much dishonesty, unfortunately as humans we remember the bad experiences and bad publicity in life, with people getting more educated and cleverer in what they do and many channels to get to their target audience, I wonder how anyone manages to make ends meet never mind survive at all.  

Like a lot of people, I take many calls and view many emails trying to get my money some are genuine, yet a lot are not and are only scammers and fraudsters.  Yet go back some years and a businessperson was able to make a good living giving good quality customer service and some really made more than a living, now a days it is even harder. 

Because of the volumes of communication, like most people a lot will go into my spam folder and get deleted and any thing that sounds too good I am dubious and will be eager to hang up quickly, so gaining trust in the marketplace is even harder today. 

I was listening to the news and to find people being scammed like movie stars and big earners by Madoff who ran the biggest Ponzi scheme in Us history, scamming people out of their money on false pretenses with investment operations that was not legitimate. 

Like most false actions and energy not for the good of people through greed went terribly wrong and died after 12 years in prison out of a 150 year prison sentence which billions of dollars was enjoyed for own gains where did this negativity get him one son committed suicide and the other died of cancer, which they say cancer forms where energy is blocked, when the intention is honest and for a good reason then money can flow bringing good life for all, it seems at times the world straightens out the wrong giving back in some way, although the victims rarely get a desirable result. 

1980’s Ronald Reagan’s campaign speech won over many of the American citizens in large areas of the country gaining the trust of most people with putting forward change of views and values that was important to them at the time.  Bringing American people together stating about fear, and the question of peace, this shows the importance of communication and the actual message, the words spoken the actions taken to back up the meaning of delivering a service experience and relationships which make the difference which people remember and are judged by. 

Now in recent times, many companies face many obstacles with many years of good service go under and trust broken, one most important issue stills stand today, good quality service and alliance with purpose of good to those we serve, gaining trust is one of the hardest areas to gain. 

I believe a good life is gaining respect and trust and leaving every situation in a better place, to help someone gain their goals and bring health and wealth into any part of the environment we work in, can only bring a good quality of life, a fulfilled life providing fulfilment and happiness to ourselves and others around us.